No one talks about how marriage is and the result from this is that people get divorced all the time. The lessons of a good marriage need to be learned by all generations. Learning to love and how to be loved is one of the hardest things to understand. There is no manual, usually we are all on auto pilot from what we have learned from our past experiences.
From our personal experience when we had a child, went through a move, job changes, and hours that didn't match up we started to grow apart. Every day it seemed we wanted to spend time in different rooms, doing different hobbies, and eventually it lead to us speaking less and less to one another in a day. We both loved each other but something was missing.....
It wasn't until we got in to some REALLY big fights over REALLY small things that we started to realize that there had to be something we could change to make us connect again. We loved being together and loved each other but we had no idea what was happening.
We decided to start putting each other first. Easy to say but not easy to do because most of us don't live for the moment. We are always worried when we are going to pay our next bill, what we are going to do tonight, worried about how our kids are doing but are completely oblivious to the very thing that we are doing right at this moment. We forget that living and loving the people who are close to you ARE the most important things.
So we planned some things to do together. The Herb Garden which was Randy's wonderful idea. He said if we plant the herbs and take care of them and love them and watch them grow...and we are successful that would be like our love growing through our hard work and dedication. We have a camping trip planned Memorial Day weekend. These things that we will do together will help us all gain new experiences together. With no TV, no distractions, just US together. Enjoying the moment.We now are taking the time to tell each other I love you, we laugh together, we do special things together, and take the time to enjoy the moments together.
No one ever tells you how to be successful in a marriage. It is a learning experience everyday with the people who are around you. You learn what works, what they like, what they need from the relationship with you. You try to give 100% and hope they are equally committed to making the relationship work. I usually don't like to share my personal issues and in particular blog about them but this topic seems to be one that we all need to talk about and share ideas together. We can teach people how to connect with the ones you love.
You just got to be so thankful everyday to wake up next to such special people like Randy and Maddox. Everyday is a day to cherish with them...they are my heart.
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