Monday, May 19, 2008

Eating Snow Cones

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Sunday - Brian & Amber are here in North Carolina...







It's so nice to have Amber and Brian over at the house....we have been relaxing, cooking, going out to eat, and most importantly spending time together.

We went out to the "Idiot Box" a comedy improve place and a local brewery "Natty Greene's" on Friday. The next day we just relaxed around the house, made vegetable kabobs, watched Tyler, and enjoyed the weather and the rabbits and birds in our back yard. Sunday we went out to a really fancy restaurant "Green Valley Grill Restaurant" for our one splurge and went on a walk through the Bog Gardens. It was a nice time, Maddox was really enjoying the whole day a LOT!

It's Monday morning and I'm making coffee, Randy is already off to work. Maddox is watching Nemo and eating some raisins with yogurt. I am going to attempt to wake up Brian and Amber up.... will post more later....

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Connecting with the ones you love.

No one talks about how marriage is and the result from this is that people get divorced all the time. The lessons of a good marriage need to be learned by all generations. Learning to love and how to be loved is one of the hardest things to understand. There is no manual, usually we are all on auto pilot from what we have learned from our past experiences.

From our personal experience when we had a child, went through a move, job changes, and hours that didn't match up we started to grow apart. Every day it seemed we wanted to spend time in different rooms, doing different hobbies, and eventually it lead to us speaking less and less to one another in a day. We both loved each other but something was missing.....

It wasn't until we got in to some REALLY big fights over REALLY small things that we started to realize that there had to be something we could change to make us connect again. We loved being together and loved each other but we had no idea what was happening.

We decided to start putting each other first. Easy to say but not easy to do because most of us don't live for the moment. We are always worried when we are going to pay our next bill, what we are going to do tonight, worried about how our kids are doing but are completely oblivious to the very thing that we are doing right at this moment. We forget that living and loving the people who are close to you ARE the most important things.

So we planned some things to do together. The Herb Garden which was Randy's wonderful idea. He said if we plant the herbs and take care of them and love them and watch them grow...and we are successful that would be like our love growing through our hard work and dedication. We have a camping trip planned Memorial Day weekend. These things that we will do together will help us all gain new experiences together. With no TV, no distractions, just US together. Enjoying the moment.We now are taking the time to tell each other I love you, we laugh together, we do special things together, and take the time to enjoy the moments together.

No one ever tells you how to be successful in a marriage. It is a learning experience everyday with the people who are around you. You learn what works, what they like, what they need from the relationship with you. You try to give 100% and hope they are equally committed to making the relationship work. I usually don't like to share my personal issues and in particular blog about them but this topic seems to be one that we all need to talk about and share ideas together. We can teach people how to connect with the ones you love.

You just got to be so thankful everyday to wake up next to such special people like Randy and Maddox. Everyday is a day to cherish with them...they are my heart.

Monday, May 5, 2008

Get out and VOTE!!

Tomorrow is voting day...now it seems like everything is undecided. It's Barack...then Hillary....then Barack....then Hillary. The Democrats need to make up our mind and just stick with someone so we can get on with the elections. Since I drive so much I am up to my neck with CNN and NPR....that is all I listen to on the radio. It sounds so much like a married couple arguing over such little things. We need to get back to the issues and not focus on a tax break on gas for the summer that will not do much for the individual family but will lose so much for the highway and road funding. It's crazy...it's all about the votes and politicians will say anything, change to be who the latest polls say is best to get them elected. This is turning out to be another political battle that is becoming too political. I just want the facts and then I can decide. It is turning in to a game....how can we sway the American public to vote for us. The problem with that is while they are trying to sway us and many of American people believe their many persona changes, it feels to me like we are losing the focus on who the candidate truly is and what they stand for. Well it is getting close to the end. You bet I am voting tomorrow and I am on edge to see the results of North Carolina and Indiana. It's a close one.

Sunday, May 4, 2008

From Charlotte....

I am writing from Mark & Christy's house here in Charlotte. Maddox is in the room next to me watching "Lazy Town"...one of his favorite shows.....Randy along with everyone here are all sleeping. It was a good time last night. Sometimes when things are going so fast and you are doing so much you sometimes just get caught up in the "doing". We took this weekend to just get away and celebrate Todd's Birthday and spend time with family. We are really enjoying ourselves here...it's not only that we are here but we are really connecting and getting to know everyone and really REALLY like them. You know how family is...or people in general are now days. It's all on the surface but we don't really try to get to know another person because it just takes too much time or it's too personal. With all of them here it just feels like we have known them forever and have grown up together.

Today we will be leaving back to Greensboro....and getting some relaxation for the rest of the day. I will keep the blog updated with any new things.

Plus the elections here in NC is right around the corner!! GO BARACK!! I just hope that the people can see him for who he is and not what the media is making him appear to be.